Gaining Self Control
Self control is a sign of maturity and a strong
personality. People who are unable to control themselves usually find
themselves in very compromising positions. They do not know how to manage
pressure and they do not know how to manage themselves, so they are usually
victimized and compromised. Learning to control yourself is important because
it will help to protect you from getting hurt. Having no control means letting
things run amok and if you want your life to have a clear direction, you have
to have a means to control your thoughts and actions.
Having Control
In life, you need to be in control if you want things
to go your way. There are certain things in your life, which will demand for
you to have some control over and they are the following:
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Life choices:
Life is a choice. Every day from the moment you wake up, you will be presented
with a situation and you need to make a decision. You will encounter a fork on
the road and you have to take the right turn and follow the right path. In the
beginning, no wrong decision is wrong but you will realize that your choice
will come with a consequence and you have to know how to gauge the outcome your
choices, so that you can control yourself and be wiser.
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Temptations: You
will also be constantly presented with various temptations. Some temptations
are good but mostly they will be bad for you and they could ruin you.
Temptations have the general characteristic of being alluring and teasing. You
will be constantly pressured to take it because it makes you feel good. But you
should be able to control yourself. You should be strong enough to say “no” and
turn away.
Self-Control Tips
If you are unable to make good life choices and you
are struggling to stay away from temptation, then you will need to develop a
good level of self-control. The following are some tips that you can use:
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Control your
emotions and urges. Some people are prone to making impulsive decisions and
these are usually fuelled by the hype and increased stimulation of emotions.
Maybe you are easily angered and you go out of control in certain situations.
You need to be strong enough to go away, for a while, so that you can study the
situation, get in touch with your emotions, and control it. Never react right
away, especially if you have not thought of it well enough, yet.
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Keep a clear
mind. If you are confused and you are distraught, then you are not in the
position to make a decision. Instead of making a decision now, give yourself a
few minutes or a few hours, and decide only when everything it is clear in your
head.
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Know the
consequences. Your actions always have a partner consequence. Before you
proceed to do something that may have an effect in your life, you should try to
see, first, what effects it can have.
