Steps to Building Self-Confidence

Steps to Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is something that everyone needs to get through life successfully and happily. When you lack the confidence you need, other people pick up on it quickly. This makes them pass you by for many things such as promotions, dates, and party invitations. In fact, it’s almost like you’re invisible because you do nothing that makes you stand out from the pack. Rather, you fade into the woodwork. There are ways, however, to build up your self-confidence and the more you practice the following steps, the faster you’ll become more positively noticed.

·        Emphasize your strengths and downplay your weaknesses:   Self-confidence begins inside you so you must focus on everything that makes you a great person. Leave the past completely in the past and focus on the future. Make a list of 10 things you find positive about yourself. Then give yourself the credit you deserve for these traits.

·        Always remember past successes: Now, write down all of the successes that you’ve enjoyed in life. Remember how each one made you feel. These will amp up your confidence so that you can look to future successes waiting for you.

·        Conquer your shyness and take a gamble: You can choose to let your life pass you by or you could choose to get out and live. Everyone needs challenges in life. These present a way to feel good about yourself each time you beat a challenge. When you take a gamble on something, you understand that you can be successful in anything you try. Even when you feel you’ve failed, you’ll come away with a lesson, and that makes you a winner.

·        Build self-control: Refuse to listen to any little voice telling you that you’re going to fall on your face. That little voice is wrong and you need the self-control to put it where it deserves to be. No one’s perfect and you don’t need to be, either. Even if you make a mistake, as long as you’ve learned something from it, you still experienced a kind of success. Mistakes are for learning. So as long as you take away some knowledge from your mistakes, you’ll start gaining more self-confidence.

·        Visualize your successes: You can attain success in things much easier when you’re able to visualize it beforehand. See yourself in the situation you’re going to be facing. Watch as you make the right decisions, take the best actions and bring about the successful ending that you desire.  Even those highly confident people that you run into from time to time use this type of visualization to bring the things they want into their lives. When you can SEE yourself bringing about what you want most in your life, you can make it happen. The more successes that you bring to yourself the more your confidence will build.

Take some time to practice these tips daily and you’ll begin noticing the level of your self-confidence increasing a bit more each time. Once you’ve attained this much needed confidence, you’ll see the change in the way others view you. It will become quite obvious that they see you as a self-confident person no matter which room you walk into.