Self Motivation and Success

Self Motivation and Success

The biggest issue about self-motivation is that it can be overcome by other emotions. If you are not strong enough, you can easily lose your stance and falter. If you are not strong enough, you can lose what you have initially established. What is most important, therefore, is that you are able to keep whatever it is that keeps you going. You need to know how to hold on to that one thing that motivates you, so that no one and nothing can prevent you from moving forward.

What is Motivation?

Many believe that motivation often comes from somewhere else. It could be a friend or a family member, pushing you to do more. It could be mentors or superiors, helping you push forward into greatness. It could also be an unfortunate situation, that is strongly inspiring you to be more and do more.

These motivational sources are effective but they can be temporary. It is quite easy for one to lose grip of things, so you need to establish something strong and permanent. You need to learn how to do away with the external factors, and achieve the desired level of motivation on your own accord.

Enemies of Self-Motivation

If you often find yourself struggling with motivation, then something must be wrong. Maybe you have fears that are controlling you and causing you to move back. Maybe you are becoming a strong critic of yourself and you have already succeeded in discouraging your own self. Maybe you are just lacking true belief in yourself. You lack confidence and you are quick to back out on opportunities that you find threatening. Maybe you have failed before and you are afraid to make another mistake. If any of these issues are familiar to you, you have to start getting yourself motivated.

Useful Self Motivation Techniques

·        Set your goals straight. What is it that you want to achieve? Always, it is important that you know what you want, so that you can go for it. Always follow one direction of movement --- and that is moving towards your goal. If you lose your way, just pick yourself up again, and move on.

·        Find inspiration. These may be people and events from which you can gain good perspective from. It is nice if you are able to surround yourself with these kinds of personalities because they are positive influences. They will help you become the person that you ought to become.

·        Learn to recognize rewards and blessings. Instead of focussing on the things that bring you down, why not look at the bright side of things and focus on what you have done well and have achieved. It is discomforting to have to look at mistakes, failures and errors, so why should you focus on that?

·        Visualize success. When you are able to see yourself victorious, it makes everything seem attainable. Do not limit yourself by saying “you cannot”. Instead, allow yourself to unravel your dreams, if only just with your mind.

Self Growth: Becoming A Leader

Self Growth: Becoming A Leader

A leader is someone who takes charge. In a group, a leader is the one who calls the shots. When something goes wrong, the leader takes charges and he directs the action of the team so that the plan can be sought through and any mistakes can be returned with a compensating action. A leader is respected by his or her subordinates. They look on to the leader because they know that he has the answer.

The Roles of a Leader

As already mentioned above, a leader takes charge and directs the course action, but more than that, a leader is expected to become the following:

·        Role model: You cannot expect your people to behave a certain way, if you yourself are violating the rules. Set a good example to the people that surround you so that you become more than just a figure they see and look up to, but you also succeed to inspire their lives.

·        Problem solver: When some things go wrong, you are expected to know what to do and you have to be able to do it, while keeping your calm. You should be able to keep your grace under the pressure, even if your world is about to shatter. You have to realize that everyone is looking at you and if you falter, they will fall with you.

·        Spokesperson: You are the man in charge; you are the one that people approaches. When fights ensue, you have to go in the middle and mediate for both parties. When something needs to be resolved, you have to stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. You are the leader. You are the go-to person, whether you like it or not.

A Leader of Your Own Life

More than just being able to lead a pack, you should be the leader of your own life. As one, you will become in charge of all aspects of your decision-making; no one should have the power to dictate what they think is better for you. This is your life; you should have full control over it.

There is a bigger reason why people should aspire to be leaders of their own life. You do not choose to be a leader because you are hungry for power. You choose to become the leader because it teaches you about responsibility and accountability. You choose to become a leader because as one, you get to make your own decisions and you accept that by doing so, you are liable for all the consequences that your actions may incur. You cannot blame others. You cannot point fingers.

 

The Qualities of a Leader

So how does one become a leader? Leaders are not born overnight. Even kings and queens have to undergo some kind of training before they are even deemed fit to lead. No one is born with the right leadership skills, but everyone who wishes to develop such skills can do so if they develop the following qualities:

·        Passion: A good leader is one that loves his work and does not even feel that it is a job, but a fulfillment of a purpose.

·        Love for others: As a leader, you will be dealing with people and you cannot be an effective leader by being aloof and indifferent.

·        Justice: You should be a leader who is fair and just. You lead not to win the favor of plenty, but to bring peace to all.

Self Growth: Asking Yourself the Right Questions

Self Growth: Asking Yourself the Right Questions

Have you ever wondered about your life and asked why you are living it in a certain way? Well, people have all sorts of questions about their lives, hoping that their questions will give answers that will make a difference. What questions have you been asking about your own life? What questions do you have that you desperately need answers for? Are you getting the answers that you have been expecting or are you always wanting more?

Asking the Right Questions

Many people do not realize this but the reason why you are not getting the answers you are looking for is because you are not asking the right questions. The mind is a very complex thing and tapping into it is going to be really difficult, so you have to be careful to pick the right questions, so that you can obtain the right answers that you need for your life. By asking the perfect questions, you can change your lives by altering the way you thing and also the way you process things.

It is All About Focus

Asking the right questions can be tough especially for someone who doesn’t really know where and how to start. With everything that’s going on in your life, it can really get confusing. What questions do you ask yourself, anyway? The trick here is to go into the specifics. You need to focus on the essential things in your life. Instead of looking at the bigger picture, break it down to bits and pieces and try to get into specific details. That way you will know where, who, and what to focus on.

The Questions to Ask

There are questions that you may have thought of asking to yourself, once before, and you should not stop yourself from asking these. Your questions should be strong enough to shake a portion in your brain that will finally set things in motion. Many people have been comfortably slumbering in their lowly states, dissatisfied, but finding no further reason to fight back and do something about it.

You should not be too quick to quit. The end is not set in stone and you can still do something about it. Here are some significant questions you can ask yourself:

·        Why am I not happy with my life and what will make me happy?

·        What is wrong with my life?

·        What is causing this cycle of frustration in my life?

·        Am I ready to try and fail again?

·        How can I avoid making the same mistakes again?

By asking yourself the right questions, you are more likely to find the answers you are looking for. You should start doing this exercise as soon as possible so that you can be on your way to promoting and developing your own self growth and build a better future for yourself. It may not come easy at first but if you keep working at it, you will be able to find the answers you need.

Self Growth Techniques

Self Growth Techniques

If you are tired of the quality of your life, and you want to see more, feel more and get more out of it, you should be more aggressive. You cannot really sit there and complain about how dull and stagnant your life seems to have become and expect it to magically transform into something great. There are no fairy godmothers that will appear with magic wands; there are not genies in bottles that will grant you three wishes. Dreaming is free and it is something everyone can enjoy, but when you wake up, you have to make your own reality.

Doing It on Your Own

Needless to say, you make your own destiny and you dictate the course that your life will take. As the author of your life and the driver of your journey, you have the power to direct the entire expedition. You cannot rely on others to take you there. You cannot blame others for your lack of progress. This is your life, and you do with it, as you please... so do not feel that you can put the blame on someone else.

Growth is something that you facilitate on your own accord, even if you get help from an external source. Just like plants, the water you feed them merely enhances growth to take place because it is the process of photosynthesis that ensures total growth and development. You are not a plant, for sure, but you are a blossoming person, just the same. Your growth is yours to direct and dictate.

Self Growth Techniques You Can Follow

There are so many things that one can do to be able to achieve self growth. Here are some techniques that you can take:

·        Attend seminars: There are several paid and free seminars scheduled everywhere, and you can choose to attend actual classes or enroll in online courses. In the seminars, you can learn to channel your inner potential so that you can become a better version of yourself.

·        Hire a life coach: A life coach is a paid professional who will give you counseling, guidance and mentoring. They are highly trained to help you make decisions that you cannot make for yourself; and if you think that you need someone to guide you throughout the journey, hiring a coach is a smart thing to do.

·        Read books: There are also published books that can help you go through your self development feat. This method is definitely cheaper than the ones previously mentioned, and it is also as effective, especially if books are effective on you.

Positive Self Growth

Despite the path and techniques you choose, there are a few things that you need to understand if you want your efforts to truly be successful. Self growth can only be achieved if you really want to make a go for it. If you are passionate about your claim, you will more likely get there; but if your desires are not real, then you will have a harder time making it happen. It is also going to be important that you become consistent about your endeavor. Do not falter even if it is hard, and do not let the obstacles keep you away from what you really want.

Self Growth and Improvement

Self Growth and Improvement

As an individual goes through his or her life, everyone expects for the person to mature physically, mentally and emotionally. This is how everyone’s life should be. From birth, man is expected to progress and develop, so when you notice that your life has taken a stagnant step and have laid out a comfortable nook in a place, just to waste away, then you ought to do something about it.

Achieving growth

A plant will need just a few things to grow. It will need carbon dioxide, sunlight, water and chlorophyll. You, on the other hand, are not a plant and so you need something else to grow. Physically, you will need nourishment and exercise. Emotionally, you will have to go through life experiences. Mentally, you will have to live a life of learning. Spiritually, you have to believe in a deeper purpose. Not everyone will achieve holistic growth, but some will, and they are lucky. Some people will manage to grow fruitfully in specific aspects in their life, and they will be content with that. Some, unfortunately, will achieve absolutely nothing, and you should always pray that you are not to be this person.

Always aspire for greatness

However comfortable you have become of your existence in this planet and in this life, you should never be content. Always aspire to be more and do more, and you can do that by enhancing yourself. You can enhance yourself:

·        Physically: You can start eating right and eating healthily. Eating right means eating a balanced meal, complete with all the necessary vitamins and minerals. To be able to support your body’s anatomical and physiological needs, you have to eat right and also exercise regularly.

·        Mentally: You have to always crave knowledge. You can attend school, small courses and seminars. You can read books, watch inspirational and instructional videos, and you can join groups. Always maintain a hunger for knowledge and allow yourself to reach beyond boundaries.

·        Emotionally: You should not shelter yourself from compromising situations just because you are afraid that you may not be able to handle things. Sometimes, you have to allow yourself to get hurt, so that you will know what pain feels. The bruises and scars will go away, eventually. Do not mind getting some, over the years, because they will teach you to be tough and show you the reality of this existence.

·        Spiritually: Spirituality is not just rooted to religion. One can achieve to be spiritually satisfied without having to be attached to any religion. Spirituality is the sense of living with a deeper purpose. It is the sense of existing for something other than to breathe, to acquire money and count accomplishments. It is the sense of being who you really are and who you ought to be.

Every day, you should take a quite assessment of your existence. Are you satisfying the different aspects of life? Is there a balance? Are you completely happy? If your answer is “no”, then you know what to do.

Self Development: Find Out Why You Aren’t Successful At It Yet

Self Development: Find Out Why You Aren’t Successful At It Yet

Self development may seem like an easy thing to do, and it is. Still some people fail dismally at it. If you have been to self development seminar and have not applied it to your life, maybe you need to reassess. It can be because you do not openly agree to what you have been taught. Or you are not comfortable with it. Self development is a tricky thing. It involves analyzing everything you know about yourself. And figure out the positive and negative aspects of your personality. Some people may balk at this type of introspection and just stop altogether. But if you are really determined to improve your life and personality, you will figure out ways to do so.

The Old Approach

Some people use the old approach to self development that is so broad and general in nature. Not everyone are alike, in fact no personality is identical. Therefore, it may be wrong to assume different types of people can follow the same set of methods. While self development only needs you to assess, reflect and take action, other people cannot manage to do it at all. They get stuck at the assessment part. They feel that they do not need to change any aspect of their personality. Naturally, they will no longer reflect or take action. Others merely discount self-help books and self development seminars as psychobabble and money-making schemes. This is exactly the reason why they aren’t successful at self development. They are simply not open to change. 

Three New Ways to Self Development

You may follow these three steps to make your own self development plan. First is excellence. If you aim to be excellent at whatever aspect in your life, that is a step at self development. If you are used to doing things halfway, and not putting your best effort, you need to change. You will realize that if you give the best of yourself to every aspect in your life, you’ll see a change. And that change is for the better. Next is purpose. What do you really hope to accomplish in life? Do you wish to be a successful entrepreneur or remain an employee for the rest of your life? Will you be content being a homemaker or should you take further trainings? Last is collaboration. Keep the company of people with the same goals.  Avoid those who have negative attitude and outlook in life.

Use your own Methods

Self development is actually rediscovering you and finding out ways of improving some or all aspects of your life. But this has to come from within. You have to initiate the change and not other people. You can gather information through self help books and joining self development seminars. If you do not agree with what you learned, then you are free to use your own methods. More people have succeeded with self development plans that they established on their own. For one, they made it and they are determined to make it work. Second, it is tailor-made for their specific personality. Using your own self development methods is actually a huge step in itself. It means you are taking action in changing yourself.   

Self-Affirmation and Optimism: It is All in the Mind

   Self-Affirmation and Optimism: It is All in the Mind

When you are feeling down and losing the will to move on, it is usually because of a great fall. When such things happen to you, you can dwindle down to nothingness and just succumb to it, or you can fight back, refusing to accept defeat and moving forward. Life is tough, everyone knows that, but you have the power to control the course that your life will take. If you are not content with the quality of life that you are leading, you can easily break through all the barriers and claim what you think you deserve.

Guaranteeing Success

In life, there is no way that you can guarantee success. In fact, there is no way that you will be able to guarantee anything, at all, but you can turn things around and guarantee something more exacting, through self affirmations and optimism. Both of these techniques operate through the same method, and that is to make use of the mind’s power to believe and make things happen. As a means to survive, you need to learn how to employ these tactics to be able to win your round.

The Power of Positivity

Optimism is powerful enough to turn things around, even when they seem impossible. Optimists are able to create an alternate word where things work for them and fall perfectly into place.

·        Due to their positive disposition, optimists are able to develop some kind of immunity to depression and all forms of sadness.

·        Optimists get more glimpses of the almost inevitable hope and faith. Life is tough and hopelessness seems to be the most certain thing in the world.

·        Researches reveal that optimists have healthier eating habits than other people. They are less abusive of their health and wellbeing, so they know how to stay away from alcohol, tobacco and in turn stay far from different kinds of illnesses.

Using Self-Affirmation to Win the Game

Self-affirmation is so much more than just looking at yourself in the mirror and whispering motivational messages to yourself. More importantly, self-affirmations help a person achieve what he thought he couldn’t. This theory is built on the thinking that parents who used to give constant affirmations to their children are able to help them become better and more confident individuals. The things that parents tell their children often make it to their head. After awhile they eventually find themselves repeating it, without even understanding what the statement really means. Self-affirmations work the same way, as some sort of hypnotic method. You have to understand, however, that self-affirmations work only when you believe what you are saying. If you cannot even convince yourself that it is true, then the self affirmations are worth nothing at all.

Optimism and self-affirmations work well in order to turn things around and make you a better person. If you feel that you lack these two, then now would be a good time to use them.

Secrets to Gaining Self-Confidence

Secrets to Gaining Self-Confidence

Typically, most people feel a bit shy when they first enter unfamiliar situations. However, there are many people that have such low self-esteem that they cannot even function under strange circumstances. These people are the ones that really need to work on building up their self-confidence so that they can explore more of a future that will let them expand into other areas. Happily, there are some secrets that will help them do just that. Have a look at the following ideas to aid you in building up your self-confidence:

·        Get to know yourself: If you’re going to learn how to effectively deal with people, you must be aware of where your strengths and weaknesses are, socially speaking. When you know what your positive traits are you’re in a good position to use them when connecting with others. This lets you know what you can offer to someone else besides just the pleasure of your company. Discover your strengths and how to best use them.

·        Step outside of your comfort zone: It’s natural for people to be more comfortable staying where they’re most familiar. However, if you don’t push your own boundaries a bit, you’ll become stagnant. You must get out and try some new things and meet some new people. Develop new skills and join new groups for different activities. When you learn new things and discover that you can do them well, your confidence will benefit from a definite boost. You’ll also have a new forum where you can express yourself.

·        Follow through with your plans: Go through your Things to Do List and figure out which listings you can complete and cross off the fastest. Just starting to finish things that you’ve wanted to do will immediately help you think more highly of yourself. Don’t depend on others to help you and stop letting yourself get caught in the shadows of others. As you complete things on your own, your reputation improves and your self-confidence builds.

·        Learn to accept and appreciate the person that you are: Explore your own little idiosyncrasies and figure out how to handle them. It’s also helpful if you can look for ways that you can use your individuality. You may be very surprised at the way others react to your unique traits. For instance, something you may have deemed an irritation may actually be endearing to other people, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with that. When you can become confident with the person you are and the skills you have, you’ll be well on your way to having the self-esteem that you always wanted.  If you’ve got some traits and habits that you can’t change, then you need to use them to your advantage as long as you’re not encroaching on the territory of others.

The thing you need to remember above everything else is to love yourself. If you can do that, you can accept everything about yourself, which will go a long way to building your self-confidence.

Proper Time Management You Should Learn About

Proper Time Management You Should Learn About

There are only twenty-four hours in a day. A portion of it is spent on resting, so in reality, you are down to just fifteen or so. Fifteen hours, that does not sound a lot, but you can easily make fifteen or even less, so much more longer if you only know how to manage your time wisely. If you want to avoid stress, cramming, mistakes and delay, you will need to have some kind of order.

Importance of Time Management

Some people do not care about schedules and to-do lists, but those who understand how precious time is, will know that with effective time management, you will no longer wonder “where the time went”. This is quite common with people. They think they have enough time to do what they have to do and they realize that so much time has lapsed. Therefore, if you want to be able to have full control of your life, you need to start getting organized.

Effective Time Management Tips

People have their own ways of managing their own time and schedule. The following are some of the things you can do, to gain some control over your day.

·        Write a to-do list. What do you have to do today? It is important that you know what you have to do for a specific day, so that you can plan ahead, for it. Writing it down is good because you can refer to it. It will keep you on track of things and you can tick off tasks that you have already accomplished easily on your list.

·        Allocate time for your tasks. Think about the things that you have to do and give yourself a schedule to do things. This will ensure that you are not running around, going back and forth, but rather you are moving in a very swift and planned motion. Allocating a specific time frame will mean that you carefully plan every move you make, so that you do not spend too much time on one thing and spend too little on another.

·        Avoid distractions. There are all kinds of distractions. Some distractions are people, some are things, some are emotions and some are events. These distractions can destroy your focus and keep you away from your task, so do not give room for these things. As much as possible, you need to always keep your focus. Avoid all kinds of clutter and keep them away from you.

·        Be punctual. If you want to be able to use your time wisely, then you have to develop a sense of punctuality. Being an early riser and starting your day earlier than usual will also help. Punctuality is important because it ensures that no time is lost for unnecessary things. At the same time, punctually also signifies your devotion and dedication for something.

Enough Time for Everything

It is also important for you to know how to allocate time for everything. Too much work is bad because you make yourself susceptible to stress and disease. When you write your schedule, make sure to allocate enough time for rest and relaxation, as well as time to socialize with friends and family. It is all about moderation. Use your time wisely. You will realize you have just enough of it, lying around.

Recognizing the Need for Change

Recognizing the Need for Change

People always find a reason to complain about their life. It is natural for people to feel envious of others; and once they begin to compare their lives with those around them, the bad things in their lives get magnified and they suffer even more.

Reasons to Change

People have different reasons for wanting a better life and perhaps you are in this situation, too. Maybe you are looking to make things better because you are tired of what you are presented with, day in and day out. Maybe you are jealous of what you see in other people and you believe that you deserve more. People are often discontent with what they have, so they desire more. Change begins when you assert yourself and begin to want more and be more. When you begin to aspire more for yourself that is the first step to recovery. Everyone deserves a second chance, and if you think that you deserve a second shot at life, then you should work towards it.

Making It Happen

When you realize that you deserve more, you begin to measure your life and what you have accomplished. Only then will you truly begin to realize that you have not done all that you are able to do and you could certainly do more. But what you have to understand is that there is nothing wrong with wanting to change things, it does not matter if you think you are a few years too late, for this overdue transformation. There is no right or wrong time for a change, and if you think that it is now, then nothing should stop you making it happen.

How to Make a Change

·        Determine your goals. Why do you want to change things? People want to change for a specific reason, and you should determine why you want to do it. The answer to this question will serve as your goal, which in turn, should lead you to the right path. Knowing what you want to do is the right motivation for change.

·        Write out a plan. Everything is done with more efficiency when you have a plan that you are following. A plan will dictate the course of your life and it will outline the journey that you will take. Making a change and turning your life around is not easy, but if you have a plan you will have a stronger foundation for your goals.

·        Ask for help. You are not a super hero. Doing the impossible and conquering the unknown is going to be hard but things are going to be so much better when you have someone to stand by your side and help you. Admitting you are incapable of doing it alone is not cowardice or weakness, in fact it is a noble thing to do. Ask for help from people who can bring you to your goal and do not be timid to tell them about it.

Recognizing the Need for Change

Recognizing the Need for Change

People always find a reason to complain about their life. It is natural for people to feel envious of others; and once they begin to compare their lives with those around them, the bad things in their lives get magnified and they suffer even more.

Reasons to Change

People have different reasons for wanting a better life and perhaps you are in this situation, too. Maybe you are looking to make things better because you are tired of what you are presented with, day in and day out. Maybe you are jealous of what you see in other people and you believe that you deserve more. People are often discontent with what they have, so they desire more. Change begins when you assert yourself and begin to want more and be more. When you begin to aspire more for yourself that is the first step to recovery. Everyone deserves a second chance, and if you think that you deserve a second shot at life, then you should work towards it.

Making It Happen

When you realize that you deserve more, you begin to measure your life and what you have accomplished. Only then will you truly begin to realize that you have not done all that you are able to do and you could certainly do more. But what you have to understand is that there is nothing wrong with wanting to change things, it does not matter if you think you are a few years too late, for this overdue transformation. There is no right or wrong time for a change, and if you think that it is now, then nothing should stop you making it happen.

How to Make a Change

·        Determine your goals. Why do you want to change things? People want to change for a specific reason, and you should determine why you want to do it. The answer to this question will serve as your goal, which in turn, should lead you to the right path. Knowing what you want to do is the right motivation for change.

·        Write out a plan. Everything is done with more efficiency when you have a plan that you are following. A plan will dictate the course of your life and it will outline the journey that you will take. Making a change and turning your life around is not easy, but if you have a plan you will have a stronger foundation for your goals.

·        Ask for help. You are not a super hero. Doing the impossible and conquering the unknown is going to be hard but things are going to be so much better when you have someone to stand by your side and help you. Admitting you are incapable of doing it alone is not cowardice or weakness, in fact it is a noble thing to do. Ask for help from people who can bring you to your goal and do not be timid to tell them about it.